Taking care of Mom & Dad
Sitting at home that Thursday night, I was wondering what to do with the rest of my life. Both my children were married, and I was free to do what I wanted, rather than what was needed. I enjoyed every minute with my children, but it was time to move forward. Thatís when I received a phone call that would be the start of four and a half of the most rewarding years of my life.
My parents were in Arizona for the winter. Dad had a stroke, and someone needed to get there immediately. The hospital was trying to take care of Mom until someone could get there, but the situation was not good. Mom had Alzheimer's and couldnít take care of herself, and Dad needed to stop trying to take care of her.
My cat and I were able to board the plane in Des Moines , Iowa , Friday morning around 6:15 , arriving in Phoenix early that afternoon. Dad recovered, but I had to make some decisions about my parentís future. I decided that I would do my best to make it possible for Mom and Dad to continue living their life the way they wanted as long as possible, then I would take care of them until they died. The first two and a half years I lived the life of a retired person (and caregiver as Dad had more strokes and Mom had Alzheimer's). Iowa in the spring and fall, Canada in the summer, Arizona and Texas in the winter, and other places in route. When not in Iowa , we lived in a 32í travel trailer which I pulled with Dadís Suburban. Then, the last two years we spent at home in Iowa because my parents were unable to travel.
Dad was 94 and Mom was 90 when they died.
Mom died in June, then the next May Dad died.
We had some wonderful times together and some traumatic times together, but overall it was extremely rewarding for all three of us. I hope my story will encourage those of you that are taking care of your parents, and give some insight to the rest of you.